At the age of twenty-four, Dimity Ware received a kidney transplant. Her doctors told her she could never have children and would probably die in her thirties. In response, she announced her lesbianism, left her husband, and gave birth to a son.

Ianto Ware revisits his childhood in suburban Adelaide, where his mother - single parent, lesbian feminist, and ardent socialist - waged a four-decade war on her conservative neighbourhood, primarily through the medium of gardening.

Blending the loving wisdom of Ray Gaita, the emotional honesty of Jeanette Winterson, and the humour of Gerald Durrell, this is part family memoir, part history of working class life, and part homage to suburban eccentricity.

Mother and I: the history of a wilful family celebrates the force of character that defies conformity and the love that prevails against bigotry.

'A gentle redescription of motherhood as an evolving relation, a singular set of possibilities, rather than a reductive category...Ware produces a thoughtful polemic against the forces that shape our society.' - Sydney Review of Books

**Highly Commended, National Biography Award, 2022**